There are plenty of places to meet lesbians, but you don’t want to just meet anyone – you want place to meet like-minded lesbians who you’ll get on with.
If you’re feeling lost, lonely, or otherwise just trying to find your niche in the lesbian world – don’t worry; we’ve all been there. Statistically, the lesbian community is one of the smallest around—comprising only 1.8% of the American population. That’s less than two women out of every 100!
But don’t let the numbers bring you down. Even if you live in the most rural, conservative area, there are still ways to find other lesbians. You just have to know where to look—and that’s where I come in. If you’re struggling to find your niche, look no further.
Check out one of these 7 places to meet like-minded lesbians below, and you’re on the way to joining a lesbian community of your own.
Online Meetup Groups
Where’s a better place to start meeting women than from the comfort of your own home? And it’s just lesbian dating sites, either – there are several online communities you can check out that advertise weekly meet-ups that vary from book clubs, wine/beer tastings, hiking – and some are even lesbian specific.
I personally used Meetup.com to join a lesbian hiking group a few years ago. Nearly twenty lesbian (or bisexual) women showed up on a drizzly day to go hiking nature trails. I didn’t even know that many lesbians were in my city, much less liked to hike as much as I do!
It was so successful that now I use it to meet new friends, lesbians in particular, when I move from state to state. So no matter where you are, definitely check it out. There’s a 90% chance that lesbians are having monthly meet-ups all around you, and you didn’t even know it.
Her Lesbian Events
Although Her started as a dating website, it has added features that allow you to see any lesbian event coming up both near and far. And since Her caters to single lesbians in particular, that means a lot of lesbians are willing to go out and meet new people.
The events range from book clubs to pride parades, and you can even see how many women are interested in attending. All it takes is signing up (for free) and swiping until something appeals to you. Before you know it, you’ll be settling into the perfect niche with a whole new crew of friends.
Lesbian Bars
Bars are a great way to meet fun new friends, no matter who you are. Although very few lesbian-only clubs exist today, almost every major city has bars that cater specifically to the gay community.
However, that doesn’t mean only gay men are there. Lesbians often frequent gay clubs or bars because there’s a lessened chance of being approached by a straight man. Sometimes, they even host special lesbian nights that even the most homebody lesbian will put on real pants to go to. If you’re lucky, you may even get a few free drinks and a drag king show.
Dog Parks
Women love dogs, point blank. Getting my dog was the best thing I could’ve done for my lesbian self. I probably get 3x as much attention with him than without him – 100% of which comes from other women.
On top of that, lesbians flock to the dog park like it’s giving away free Birkenstocks. There never fails to be at least one other lesbian there. And more often than not, they’re totally down for setting up some doggy play dates or grabbing coffee.
So if you have a cute dog, or even a scraggly one, try taking him to the dog park. Not only will your pup have a great time, so will you.
Workplace
This one is a little trickier. Not everyone can be ‘out’ at work, but the ones who can have a big advantage. As the saying goes, like attracts like.
Say your coworker, Angie, hears that you’re a lesbian. She has a friend, Tina, who is also a lesbian. Angie texts Tina over lunch, and bam! The next thing you know, you’re meeting up with Tina for brunch on Sunday. Putting yourself out there allows for some great connections you may not otherwise have.
Sports Teams
It’s not just a stereotype that lesbians love to play sports – they really, seriously do. I mean, what better way to meet other people than by playing a fun game and grabbing a beer afterwards?
In fact, I joined a rec softball and rugby team in college solely for the fact that soo many lesbians were already playing. I had more lesbian friends then than at any other point in my life.
And if you aren’t great at sports but love having fun with all kinds of different types of people, consider joining your local rec league anyway. Most of the time you don’t even have to be good as long as you commit to showing up to the majority of the games.
Bottom line: No matter how you do it, put yourself out there! There’s no better way to find where you fit in than by actively seeking out a niche. Whether it be online, in person, or by happenstance, there will always a place out there for you.