Saying that I wish I was a lesbian can sound silly, even insensitive especially for those who’ve experienced first hand the challenges that come with being gay but I still have to say, there’s a lot of us out there who weren’t born lesbian but sometimes – quite often – wish we were.
We all have different reasons why being a lesbian appeals to us. For example, I recently read this amazing article from Thought Catalog, where a young gay man vocalized his reasons on why its better to be a lesbian than a gay man. Most of his reasons were purely emotion-based. But for me, my reasons span the whole spectrum of existence.
For those who don’t know me, I’m a young straight woman (just putting it out there, no need to raise your pitch forks at me) in my early 20s, single and maybe ready to mingle. And as a single woman in her 20s, I am constantly asked the question, “Why are you single?” I can state a lot of reasons why I am single, but here I am thinking how wonderful it would be if I was lesbian.
Here are my 6 reasons why I wish I were a lesbian…
Women are Gorgeous
Yeah, you heard me. Women are gorgeous. Every woman out here, whether they’re thin or thick, tall or petite, fair skinned or tanned. They are all beautiful. And I don’t understand how men could actually take these women for granted.
As a straight woman it upsets me when I see gorgeous confident women, get their legs chopped off and their spines taken away by men who don’t take women seriously. Nope. Lesbians don’t do that. Lesbians know a woman’s worth.
They know and respect women, because they are women. And because they are women, they know that a woman needs to be loved and catered to. But even if they weren’t women, it’s just nice to see people loving others for who they are. And that’s probably one of the benefits of dating a lesbian. They think you’re gorgeous both inside and out.
Lesbian Redefine the Meaning of Soulmates
We all heard of the typical man falls in love with woman at first sight. The pieces of the puzzle aligning the way the planets align every thousands of years or so. But have you heard of lesbians dating for life?! And by that I mean, even when they have broken up, they still stick by each other?
Most of my lesbian friends love and respect their significant others so much, that even breaking up with them won’t break the bond they have created.
It seems like far more than straight couples, lesbians are more likely to mate for life and have the best emotional connections out there. Because how many straight couples do you know, stay close friends despite having broken up? It may also be more common that I thought, but I personally think they do not have the same connections as most lesbian couples do.
I am not sure if it’s because lesbians know what its like to be a girl and the importance of keeping close ties to each other, but I don’t think I have seen better connections between partners than I have in the lesbian community. And I wish I had that. And I’m so jealous they do have that.
They can have multiple soul mates but still be able to actually love and respect them even after things didn’t work out romantically. And I feel like that’s something that’s lacking in our society today.
Never Ending Clothing Options
Compared to the first two reasons on why I wish I were a lesbian, this one might seem petty but dammit it’s something I’m sure all girls want. I’d like to assume that we all have those days where we look into our closets and be like, “I don’t have anything to wear!” or the classic, “I don’t have any options in here!”
But never fear my lesbian friends. Have you actually discovered your girlfriend’s wardrobe? If not, you are missing out on half of your life. As a straight woman who has enough clothes, I still don’t have the options that lesbians have when they date someone. The beautiful closet heaven.
Sure some lesbian couples don’t have the same styles, but you have to admit, how many times do women, straight, lesbian or bi, have looked into their closet and needed something they’re sure they won’t need again after that one occasion?
Most of the times, lesbians and bis have the option to actually borrow from their girlfriends. Nope, not for me. If I have to be in a business meeting the morning crashing at a boyfriend’s, and have only his set of clothes to choose from, I’m definitely screwed.
How about borrowing from a friend or maybe your sister? Any girl who asks that probably doesn’t know the answer to this question. Anything borrowed from a friend or a sister means that that shirt would be gone forever. So yes, I do want to become a lesbian for their closet. Sue me.
“I Bet You’re On Your Period, Huh?”
How many times have we heard this from our guy friends or boyfriends? How many times did they mistake one temper tantrum for your time of the month? Or the times they would count the days before Mother Nature comes to visit?
That’s definitely one thing lesbians will never do to women. And it made me realize how lucky lesbians are for dating each other. They’ll never have to experience those awkward moments of explaining what exactly is the difference between a pad and a tampon. Having to also awkwardly explain what size and brand one should get when going for a run to the store.
I wouldn’t have to try and defend myself for wanting to stay in bed instead of going out for a hike. Lesbians would already know. They would know because they themselves are women. And I honestly wish I knew what it’s like to be dating someone who understands the pain I’m going through. And no, dating a male ob-gyn does not count.
Although, when you’re a woman with a woman, your menstrual cycles would inevitably sync up meaning you go through all the period pains and lows at the same time. That could be bummer, sure, but it could also be awesomeness with double the ice cream and lounging in pjs together.
Bye, Bye Pregnancy Scares
Dating a lesbian automatically scratches out the possibility of accidentally getting pregnant. And if you’re a woman who’s experienced a condom mishap or forgotten to take her pills and experienced the agony of being late, you know how big of a perk this is.
Lesbians don’t have to worry about the possibility of getting pregnant while having sex. They could actually have all the sex they want without worrying about anything popping out, not unless they finally choose to have a baby by finding a semen donor. But without that donor, no baby will be coming out of that vagina any time soon.
I mean, all the sex you want without the risk of pregnancy? Count me in!
A True Appreciation of Freedom
With all jokes aside, I think if there’s one thing I envy the most when seeing two lesbians love each other, is the freedom they have to express it. I want to explain this further. We all know what these people have to go through in order to fight for their rights.
But even before they had those rights, they always cherished the love and respect they had for each other and proudly showed it to the world. Because they know how hard it is to be accepted for loving someone freely. So they cherish it.
They inspire many closet LGBT teens as well as straight people like me, who are often too shy and sometimes insecure to share and express the love their partner deserves. But they do that. Lesbian women may not be PDA heavy or maybe they are, but the fact that they are out in the world loving each other despite the stupid, petty things (and people) who have tried to stop them is straight up inspiring.
These women, who whole-heartedly love each other, don’t give a crap about what the world thinks. They only think about their selves, and the importance letting each other know, that they do love and accept each other despite circumstance. So yes, it did take a lot for these women to be able to show the world that they loved women. But the price they had to pay, the things they had to give up for everything else in return, was worth it.